Friday, August 28, 2009

The times they are a-changin'

My friends John and Linda got engaged tonight (congrats guys, I can't say I've ever seen a happier couple). That's two weddings, two engagements and one kid on the way. All in the last year. Somewhere in between I finished college and moved back home.

On a hopefully unrelated note--why has everyone been asking me whether I'm seeing someone right now? I swear I've been asked that at least 10 times since I came home.

A couple days ago, I was talking to John during a tennis break and I'd like to say he was telling me (but really it was more like rebuking me) about what sacrifice really means. And when you're talking to a guy who's about to sacrifice the rest of his life in getting married, it's probably a good idea to listen. So I listened.

I think for the past 6 years or so I've been content telling myself that my penchant for irresponsibility was conveniently limited to relationships, dating and things of that sort. But I've quickly begun to realize that it's bled through to my entire life. Pretty sobering.

I've noticed that whenever I hear about my friends going through these events, I always say the same thing. As much as I prize eloquence, I'm ashamed to say that my first words have always been some combination of "man" or "dude". Pretty retarded I know. But what should be taken as "Man, I'm really happy for you" has always been "Man, your life is over". How is it that I'm just learning now that that's unhealthy?

Here's to urgency and responsibility. And I pray, a healthier take on marriage.


anninoe said...

i didn't even know joe and hyejin were expecting until TODAY when i had lunch with kwon smn and she let me know

and as a sidenote, i don't think you're irresponsible; keep in mind that everyone who is getting hitched is generally a few years older than you. you just got done with school...take a breather!

Diana said...

great insight sam.